Breaking the Silence: Supporting Those Affected by Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse is a devastating issue, affecting individuals of all ages, genders, and backgrounds. It can take many forms—physical, emotional, financial, or sexual and often goes unnoticed, hidden behind closed doors. Disturbingly, one in three women and one in six to seven men experience domestic abuse during their lifetime. Despite its prevalence, stigma and fear often keep survivors from seeking help. Breaking this silence is crucial to addressing domestic abuse and ensuring that everyone affected receives the support and protection they need.
Rosa Keneally, Domestic Abuse and Exploitation Lead explains:
Sometimes people ring because they literally say, I have to leave my home. If I don’t leave, I’m going to be killed. It’s that serious.
Rosa’s work is central to safeguarding individuals at risk, offering both immediate support and long-term guidance for those affected.
Key Resources for Support
For survivors of domestic abuse, knowing where to turn can make the difference between life and death. National organisations like Refuge play a critical role in providing support through their 24-hour helpline. This vital resource is available every day of the year, including bank holidays. The helpline provides immediate assistance, connecting survivors to shelters and other resources that prioritise their safety.
For male survivors, who may feel particularly isolated due to societal stigma, the Men’s Advice Line offers tailored support, ensuring that help is accessible to everyone, regardless of gender.
Safety Planning and Technology
When it comes to escaping an abusive situation, preparation can save lives. Safety planning is an essential process, and Rosa highlights the importance of having a plan in place:
- Prepare an escape plan: Think ahead. Have an emergency bag ready with essentials like money, ID, and a fully charged phone.
- Build a support network: Tell someone you trust about your situation. A neighbour or friend who’s aware can alert the police if they notice anything suspicious.
- Utilise safety apps: Free tools like Hollie Guard and Bright Sky offer discreet and practical support. Hollie Guard allows users to signal for help, while Bright Sky provides information for survivors and professionals, including advice on what to say and where to find help.
These resources can be a lifeline, particularly for individuals who may not feel safe speaking openly about their situation.
Support Within the Workplace
The impact of domestic abuse often extends beyond the home, affecting survivors in their workplaces. Rosa highlights the role of employers in creating safe and supportive environments for affected staff.
Flexible working arrangements, alternative work locations, or special leave can make a huge difference for someone in a dangerous situation.
These accommodations not only prioritise safety but also enable survivors to maintain their professional lives, which can be a source of stability during difficult times.
Monthly confidential sessions are another valuable resource for staff experiencing domestic abuse. These virtual appointments provide a safe space to discuss individual circumstances and develop tailored action plans.
Rosa states:
If someone comes to me and says, ‘I don’t know what my options are,’ we work together to explore how the organisation can support them.
Raising Awareness and Advocacy
While safeguarding teams and helplines are vital, raising awareness about domestic abuse is equally important. Community education can play a transformative role in empowering survivors and preventing abuse.
“During holidays, when people often feel more isolated, the risks can increase,” Rosa warns. To combat this, she advocates for proactive communication about available resources.
We want all patients, all staff, and the public to know about these services. The more people who are aware, the more likely survivors are to find the help they need.
Rosa also stresses the importance of taking immediate action in urgent situations.
The first thing to say is if you are in immediate danger, call the police. Always 999.
Breaking the Cycle of Abuse
Domestic abuse thrives in silence, but breaking that silence is the first step toward healing and prevention. By equipping individuals with knowledge, resources, and support, we can collectively work to end the cycle of violence and create a safer society for everyone.
Rosa says:
It’s about making sure people know they don’t have to face this alone. The resources are there, but we need to make sure they’re visible and accessible.
Taking Action and Seeking Help
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, help is available. Reach out to:
- National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (available 24/7).
- Men’s Advice Line: Support specifically for male survivors.
- Hollie Guard App: A discreet personal safety app that transforms your phone into a security device.
- Bright Sky App: A comprehensive resource offering guidance and signposting for survivors and their supporters.
